How do you know when you’re being emotionally abused? Sometimes it’s so smooth you swear it’s really you that made the mistakes and it really is all your fault. And then you think. And think a whole lot more. Then you realize that the insults that were thrown at you to push those triggers and buttons of insecurity, were really reflections of the other person’s behavior.
Is it abusive to say, “you shouldn’t travel, you’re not mobile.” Damn right it is. It’s a way of keeping someone in a place of being less than.
Is it abusive to say, “Darling,
I have integrity as well. That’s why I left your ass in Sydney. Please stop sending me abusive messages. Your behavior now is disturbing and your actions with me now are why so many people dislike you and why you have many enemies. I have none. Let it go dear. PLEASE do not contact me again.”
That email came after I’d asked him to stop emailing me. And after I’d sent him the vacation pics of him that were on my camera.
Let’s think about this: He bad mouthed every person and place we went. It was always his way or no way. I have a knee injury and it’s hard to get around, but friends help friends in times like that. Especially since we took the trip to raise money for a cancer charity. Lots of less than fully mobile people all over the place.
He threatened me with gathering up all of his friends to hate me. What I found out is that many people actually don’t like him. It’s not a score for the win column. It’s a sad statement that an insecure person make when he’s on the narcissism spectrum.
I will not miss him or his multiple texts per day. Most of which were audio messages. Forcing me to stop and listen to his usually idiotic ramblings.
In the times we’re living in, I’m not surprised that a United Airlines Captain would diss flight attendants. But I said, when you need them they better be ready.
He told me lie after lie. So many that when I proved one with a text he sent, I thought he would jump out of his skin.
It’s my fault really. He behaved like this last year as well. Just not to this degree.
Be careful who you travel with. I recommend picking fun loving souls who find you interesting, and who don’t eat everything off your plate like a vulture when you’re done. Graceful, I know. I recommend listening to your gut. There’s an alarm that goes off when you’re around someone who really is abusive by nature.
I’m saying no more ever. I’d rather hang out with flight attendants.
Thank you to the powers that be for my blissful days without him. I was able to regain my self respect and enjoy my friends in one of my favorite world class cities.